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By: A long post about relationships. And stuff. « Vodka-fuelled Diatribes

A long post about relationships. And stuff. « Vodka-fuelled Diatribes — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 09:17:23 +0000

[...] of random conversations with various friends over the last few weeks and Ted’s exercises in catharsis, because I got to thinking about love, relationships and [...]

By: Diomedies

Diomedies — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 00:39:18 +0000

Wow. I needed this. You practically described my last relationship and then some, so now I have an idea of what else to look out for. Discovering these things sure comes as a permanent shock to the system, eh?

Well thank you Sir Quixotic Jedi, for some insight much needed. Best wishes for all your future relationships!

By: Darth Traya

Darth Traya — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 17:16:40 +0000

Very wonderful blog Ted.

I am with you, I went into my first marriage believing I knew what it took to make a marriage work. But looking back in hindsight, I think my parents had more of a non aggression pact than a marriage. As long as dad, busted his butt to afford the lifestyle to which we had grown accustomed things are peachy.

We learn as we go. While getting married the first time was a very bad idea, it gave me the insight to make my current marriage work. And for that alone, it was worth it.

By: The Naked Redhead

The Naked Redhead — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 13:58:56 +0000

SO well said…I think people often forget that each marriage is its own beast. Each marriage is not like the one before it, and each one requires different types of nurturing and compromise.

Your post also sums up another misconception, that once you’re married, you and your partner will just automatically “grow together.” I believe growth in any relationship requires continual PERSONAL growth and maturity, as well as growth with your partner. I think you said it best:
“In putting everything into my marriage, I lost my self. I didn’t exist outside of being married.”

Good stuff, friend.