December 29, 2008 · 1 comment

One excellent saying I’ve heard is:  “if you want self-esteem, do esteemable acts.”

This is almost always followed up by a question along the lines of:  “what qualifies as an esteemable act?”

Answer:  whatever YOU think is esteemable.  Yes, it’s a SUBJECTIVE standard.  I do things that I think are esteemable, and that increases my self-esteem.

On Sundays, I iron the 4 pairs of khakis I wear to work during the week (jeans on Friday).  I use heavy starch for a sharp crease down the legs and cuff the bottoms because I think this looks good.  My shirts get dry-cleaned regularly so that I have good crisp lines in my clothes when I go to work.  If I don’t have a beard, I shave every morning; I always comb my hair.  My belt and shoes match and I like a shine on my shoes.  I don’t care if you think these things make me look good or not: I don’t do them for you, I do them for me.  I like to look this way when I go to work.

I do my laundry and clean my car and apartment once a week because I like the way I feel when I’m done – and now I don’t like the way I feel if I don’t do these things.  I pay my bills (on time), call people back, and help (if I can) when asked.  I believe these are esteemable acts (of the most basic nature, but esteemable nonetheless).

I have climbed 25 of the 35 highest peaks in the Catskills.  Do you consider this esteem-worthy?  If yes, great, so do I.  If no, that’s fine too: you can think this a despicable waste of time and my dignity will not be injured because I believe these to be esteemable acts.

These are just some of the things that I do which make mee feel good about myself.

What do you consider to be esteemable acts?  If you want self-esteem, do them.

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Tom January 2, 2009 at 12:38

Just reading your Sunday “routine” (sorry, I know how you’re trying to be non-routine) makes me laugh because I am your exact opposite.

I do wear khakis to work sometimes, and sometimes I even iron my stuff, but for the most part I am the anti-Ted. I never dry-clean my shirts because I own nothing worth dry-cleaning and I refuse to spend the money anyway. As a result, if there is anything crisp about my clothes when I go to work it’s because my kids wiped something on me that dried during my commute.

I shave about once per week or less. And I have no hair to comb. While my belt & shoes do match, my shoes haven’t had a shine on them in years. Hell, the shoes in question don’t even have shoelaces at this point!

The point is, you would be really down in the dumps if you were me!


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